The wealthy Florida woman Quinn Gray, who stands accused of faking her kidnapping and extorting money from her husband, may have been suffering from Stockholm Syndrome (the psychological bonding that can occur between captive and abuser), which was complicated by bipolar disorder. After listening to the tapes and watching her husband Reid struggling to understand this complicated and devastating incident, I am not convinced that she did any of this willingly.
Given the family history of Quinn Gray, it does appear that she has been suffering from undiagnosed bipolar disorder and was self-medicating for most of her adult life with alcohol. Reid Gray should be commended for not rushing to judgment and vilifying his wife of 15 years. I can see his deep desire to have grace and dignity during this time for his children, himself, and his wife. He is candid about their struggles in their marriage, and seems to truly love his wife and want to help her heal and recover from her bipolar disorder.
There are a few things that make me believe Quinn may have been kidnapped, was simply trying to survive this traumatic event, and may have quickly developed Stockholm Syndrome coupled with a severe manic phase of bipolar disorder. I question why she would have actually given the correct name of her alleged abductor, Jasmine, a correct description of his car, and directed them to the location where she had been held. It seems counterintuitive for someone who had faked her kidnapping and colluded with the kidnapper to reveal those truths at the risk of being caught.
I am not surprised by her own confusion of events and what she reports because of her possible manic episode. Quinn Gray, if kidnapped, must have feared for her life — which she does tell the police in her interview. She didn’t know if she would survive this kidnapping. Stockholm Syndrome does not need days or weeks to occur, it can be set off the moment we are in extreme fear of bodily harm.
Stockholm Syndrome is a survival strategy, which is triggered in extreme conditions such as:
â€¢ The constant threat to physical and psychological survival
â€¢ A condition of helplessness and hopelessness
â€¢ Isolation and loss of support systems from the outside world
â€¢ A context of trauma and terror that shatters previously held assumptions
â€¢ The perception that survival depends on total surrender and compliance.
I am not convinced that Quinn Gray plotted this kidnapping with the evidence that I have seen. We must consider that this may have been a desperate wife and mother trying to survive an extreme set of circumstances. If she was in a manic state, this would have made the situation all that more challenging and confusing for her to manage.