In my private practice, I work with couples that are struggling with many issues — whether a conflict-filled marriage, a sexless one, or both. As you can imagine, they do often go together. There is the rare conflict-filled but totally passionate marriage, and the sexless marriage that seems otherwise fairly healthy. However, to have a fully connected and conscious couplehood, you need emotional safety and connection as well as a mutually...

So are you negative like your father or mother (if they are), or does your skin crawl every time they interject a deflating comment about something you’re telling them? Researchers report that about half of human happiness is genetically determined. Also, around 10 percent of our happiness comes from life circumstances — for example, where you live. This explains why people who move to sunny southern California from upstate New York...

I have been procrastinating writing this article all day! I of course did other things instead, like the dishes, organize my daughter’s Barbies, and surf the Internet. All things which are clearly less important than writing this piece on procrastination. Or are they? So here I finally begin: why do people procrastinate, and what can we do if it is a serious problem in our lives? According to Joseph R. Ferrari, Ph.D., and Timothy A....

Researchers in England have discovered that swearing helps us cope with stress and pain. Say what? Dr. Michelle Golland: So no wonder we moms are concerned about the amount of foul language we use in front of our children. Who is under more stress and yes, even in pain than a mom?! What group most needs to drop the F-bomb? When we drop a sippy cup right on our toe and scream f@!*ck (my favorite profanity), it actually triggers our natural...

Your handsome coworker has been giving you the eye — do you go for it or say “no way”? Dr. Michelle Golland: David Letterman and his office trysts are in the glare of the media right now. Everyone is less focused on the alleged extortion attempts and more interested in whether he should have ever even entered into sexual relationships with women at work. His wife worked for him at The David Letterman Show for years before they...

Jon Gosselin is doing the right thing by stopping the filming of the new show “Kate Plus 8.” It seems like everyone other than Kate Gosselin believes it is the right thing to do. I believe part of her knows it is the correct thing for the mental and emotional well-being of her eight children, but the breadwinner of this large family is struggling with how she will pay her bills. I can empathize with that completely. I am sure the...