Several months ago I was on Dr. Drew’s show, an episode about the Anthony Weiner exposure debacle, with a gentleman (term used loosely) named Steve Santagati who represented himself as an alpha male. Because of the nature of the television interview, we were unable to have a complete conversation, and I have some things left to say. Steve, you richly pointed out “we’re on a television show, not a documentary, so I have to speak in...
The Million Teenage Mom March!
I know one day my precious little girl Tova, who was in a car seat not that long ago, will come to me to say that she is going to or already has had sex. And when that day comes, I expect my husband and I will laugh and cry, feeling sad for the baby that has grown up in front of our eyes and happy that we have created a home in which she feels comfortable talking to us. I imagine the conversation about sexual safety that I will have with both...
Things are a Changing! Thank God!
I was talking with a friend the other day and we were laughing and horrified that her father still uses the term Orientals when describing anyone of Asian descent. I told her that my father in law learned many years ago not to speak like that in front of me for fear of having his head ripped off! My kids play with finger traps, and I remember when we used to call them “Chinese finger prisons”. I remember telling my dad not to “Jew” me when he...
What Happened the Night BEFORE Ginni Thomas Called Anita Hill?
Nearly twenty years after Anita Hill accused Clarence Thomas of sexual harassment during his contentious Supreme Court confirmation hearings, Ginni Thomas, Clarence’s wife, left Anita a message requesting an apology. I can’t help but wonder what went on in the Thomas home the night before that very early 7:30 AM message was left on Anita’s work voicemail at Brandeis College. Had there been some strange rehashing of those...
Sex Therapy Basics
Sex provides a couple with pleasure, vulnerability and a deep, close connection that is very important to experience in an intimate partnership. It’s also an important time-out and stress reliever from the mundane tasks and pressures of daily life. An unfulfilled sex life can become a big issue that can erode even the healthy parts of your marriage. If you or your partner is having sexual issues, it is best to deal with them directly,...
Stop the Teen-Pregnancy Blame Game!
The MTV shows “16 and Pregnant” and “Teen Mom” don’t glamorize teen pregnancy. Giving these young mothers covers on magazines with a quote like, “I’m Broke” certainly isn’t glamorous, either. OK, I get the argument that the teen moms are held out on the cover and given a pretty makeover, and that that might somehow make young girls think it is cool to get pregnant at 16, struggle to receive...