Michelle Golland: The MTV shows “16 and Pregnant” and “Teen Mom” don’t glamorize teen pregnancy. Giving these young mothers covers on magazines with a quote like, “I’m Broke” certainly isn’t glamorous, either. OK Magazine/US Weekly OK, I get the argument that the teen moms are held out on the cover and given a pretty makeover, and that that might somehow make young girls think it is cool to...
Betrayal, Disconnection and Deception: Tiger’s Tale
In her People Magazine interview, Elin Nordegren shared that she had no idea that her husband, Tiger Woods, had been having sex with more than 20 women in the past three and a half years. She also said that the word “betrayal” doesn’t begin to describe what her feelings were when she found out about her husband’s infidelities. I have worked with couples wherein one of them claims to have had no idea that the affairs were...
Teen Pregnancy Is a Public Health Issue, Not a Political One!
The story about first graders possibly getting condoms in Massachusetts showed, yet again, how the issue of sex education in our country has become politicized in such a ridiculous way that we lose sight of the importance of informing our children about their sexuality and reproductive health. This issue should not be placed in the Liberal vs. Conservative category. Rather, it squarely falls within “public health.” Teen pregnancy is...
Al and Tipper: Getting Divorced After 60
Tipper and Al Gore aren’t alone in choosing to end their 40-year-old union. The phenomenon of “The Gray Divorce” is growing. More and more 50-plus men and women are deciding to end their decades-old marriages. Some say it’s due to the economic freedom that many women now enjoy; others credit Viagra, because it has helped create vastly new sexual experiences for older adults. Sixty may be the new 40! A May 2004 survey...
Dads Who Are Disgusted by Childbirth
I have often said to the couples in my practice that it may be the most difficult time in history to be a father. I believe this because our generation of men had a lot of expectations thrust upon them, but didn’t really have a “movement” to define the change they have experienced as men, husbands and fathers. It’s not that I don’t think the changes are positive, but let’s face it: It doesn’t make them...
What?? Some Men DON’T Want Sex?!
Why are people so shocked when husbands don’t want to have sex? It is not such a shock to me. I see it in my office a lot. I see men who are just as tired and exhausted as us women — and being too tired is one of the first reasons why the sexual desire of men can decrease. However, this contradicts our cultural beliefs about men and sex. The myth that men will have sex anytime, anywhere –and with anyone — is simply...